James May had no idea two years ago that what he considered a harmless flirtation with a new friend would change his future, home life and relationship with long-term partner Jerry Betzold.
The couple was entertaining visitors Darek Mayen of Minnesota and his partner. As they all sat around the kitchen table playing cards, May and Mayen were having a heated footsies encounter under it. When May looked down to retrieve a card he had dropped, he discovered Mayen also toe-to-toe with Betzold.
“I lost it a little bit,” May says.
He and Betzold went outside to talk and realized they both were attracted to Mayen, who had become May’s friend first and then Betzold’s on the photo-sharing website Flickr. “We wanted to see where it would go,” May says.
They returned to the kitchen and engaged Mayen in a passionate kiss, while his partner was in the bathroom. The lip-lock confirmed that their guest was as interested in exploring the possibilities as they were.
Together 30 years since meeting in Seattle, May and Betzold say they weren’t looking to change their relationship before they met Mayen. Their mutual attraction and shared interests with Mayen were unexpected, setting in motion a long-distance relationship. While finishing college in Minnesota, Mayen visited the couple in the desert during breaks and they would fly there to see him. He moved to Palm Springs in May, and now shares a home and intimate relationship with May and Betzold.
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Ace Hardware 1785 E. Palm Canyon Drive
Ace Hotel & Swim Cl ub 701 East Palm Canyon Drive
Airport Quick Wash (Car Wash) 4144 E. Ramon Road
Albertsons Sunrise & Vista Chino (Gay Section) 1751 N. Sunrise Way
All Worlds Resort 526 Warm Sands
Art Gallery District on Cherokee 2682 Cherokee Way
Aunt Effie’s Nursery 2393 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Azul Tapas Lounge 369 N Palm Canyon Dr.
Barber Don 190 E. Palm Cyn.
Basic Gym 1584 S. Palm Cyn
Billy Reed’s 1800 N. Palm Canyon Drive
BMW 3737 E. Palm Canyon Drive
Bongo Johnny’s 214 E Arenas
Brien O’Brien Hair Salon 515 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Café Europa 515 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Café Palette 315 E. Arenas Road
Caliente Tropics 411 E. Palm Canyon Drive
Camelot Theatres 2300 E Barristo Rd.
Camp Palm Springs 1466 N. Palm Cyn.
Canyon Club Resort 960 N. Palm Cyn.
Car Rental Locations @ Airport
Casitas Laquita (Women’s hotel) 450 East Palm Canyon Drive
Century Resort 598 Grenfall Rd.
Chaps Resort 312 E. Camino Monte Vista
Cheeky’s and Birba’s 622 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Chestnuz Resort 641 San Lorenzo
Espress Cielo 245 S. Palm Canyon Drive
Classic Homes 2045 E. Tahquitz Canyon Way
Colony Palms Hotel 572 N. Indian Canyon Drive
Columns Resort 537 Grenfall Rd,
Community Prescriptions 555 S. Sunrise
Contour Dermatology 555 E. Tahquitz Drive
Convention Center 277 N. Avenida Caballeros
Desert Aids 1695 N. Sunrise
Desert Paradise Resort 615 Warm Sands
Desert Regional Medical Ctr 1150 N. Indian Canyon Drive
Desert Women for Equality 555 S. Sunrise Way, Suite 209
East Canyon Resort 288 E. Camino Monte Vista
El Mirasol Villas Resort 525 Warm Sands
Escena 1100 Clubhouse View Drive
Estate Sales Company 4185 E. Palm Canyon
Gay Mart 305 Arenas
Gideon Fine Art Gallery, 2682 S. Cherokee Way
Golds Gym 4070 Airport Center Drive
Hacienda Resort 586 Warm Sands
Hair Salons in PS
Halo Resort 280 Mel Ave.
Hamburger Marys Café 415 N. Palm cyn.
Hilton Palm Springs 400 E. Tahquitz Canyon Way
Hotel Zoso 150 S. Indian Canyon Drive
Hunters 302 Arenas
Hyatt on Palm Cyn 285 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Infiniti 4057 E. Palm Canyon Drive
Inn Dulge Resort 601 Grenfall Rd.
Inn Exile Resort 545 Warm Sands
Jake’s Ready to Eat 664 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Jensen’s Fine Food in PS 2465 E. Palm Canyon Drive
Just Fabulous 515 N Palm Canyon Dr.
Keep on Bookin’ bookstore (Lesbian owned) 611 S. Palm Canyon Drive, #19
Koffi Café 515 N. Palm Cyn.
Koffi Café 1450 E. Palm Canyon
La Dolce Vita Resort 1491 S. Via Soledad
LGBT Community Ctr. Of the Desert 611 S Palm Canyon Dr., Ste. 201
LULUs 200 S. Palm Canyon Drive
Mail Boxes Ect. 611 S. Palm Cyn.
Mango 2080 N. Palm Cyn.
Manhattan in the Desert 2665 E. Palm Canyon Drive
Mercedes Benz 4095 E. Palm Canyon Drive
Mirage Resort 555 Grenfall Rd.
Movie Colony Hotel 726 N. Indian Canyon Drive
OohLaLa 301 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Palm Canyon Theater 538 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Palm Springs City Hall 3200 E Tahquitz Canyon Way
Palm Springs Coffee 123 N. Palm Canyon
Palm Springs Convention Center 277 Avenida Caballeros
Palm Springs International Airport
Palm Springs Art Museum 101 Museum Drive
Palm Springs Chamber Office 190 W. Amado Road
Palm Springs Visitor Center 2909 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Palm Springs Public LibrARY 300 S. Sunrise Way
Palm Springs Fitness
Palm Springs Dental
Parker Meridian, The 4200 E. Palm Canyon Drive
Pinocchio 134 E. Tahquitz
Q Trading 606 E. Sunny Dunes
Queen of Hearts Resort (Women’s hotel) 435 Avenida Olancha
Rainbow Bar & Grill 212 S Indian Canyon Dr.
Ralphs 425 Sunrise
Ralphs 1733 E. Palm Canyon
Read Brown Hair Salon 1063 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Real Estate office HOM,
Renaissance Hotel 888 Tahquitz Canyon Way
Revivals 611 S. Palm Cyn.
Rick’s Restaurant 1973 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Riviera Hotel 1600 N. Indian Canyon Drive
Saguaro 1800 E. Palm Canyon Drive
Santiago Resort 650 San Lorenzo
Shermans 401 Tahquitz
Spurline 200 Arenas
Street Bar 224 Arenas
Terrazzo Resort 1600 S. Palm
Tool Shed 590 E. Sunny Dunes
Tortuga Del Sol Resort 715 San Lorenzo
Toucans Lounge 2100 N. Palm Cyn.
Triangle Inn Resort 555 San Lorenzo
Trina Turk 891 N. Palm Canyon Drive
TRIOs 707 N. Palm Canyon Drive
UPS Store near Revivals
Viceroy Hotel 415 S. Belardo Road
Wang’s in the Desert 424 S Indian Canyon Dr.
Warm Sands Villas Resort 555 Warm Sands
Wil Sites 875 N. Palm Canyon Drive
Windermere 850 N. Palm Canyon Drive
World Gym 1751 N. Sunrise #F1
WorkOUT Gym 2100 N. Palm Canyon Drive
American Hairlines 73640 El Paseo
Burberry 73061 El Paseo
Cal State SB 37500 Cook Street
College of the Desert 43500 Monterey Avenue
Jensens Palm Desert 73601 Highway 111
Keedy’s 73-633 Hwy 111
McCallum Theatre 73000 Fred Waring Drive
Palm d’or Theater 72-840 Monterey
Palm Springs Art Museum’s Palm Desert Branch 72-567 Highway 111
Ralph Lauren 73061 El Paseo
Sun City Palm Desert 38180 Del Webb Blvd.
Trader Joe’s 44250 Town Center Way
UC Riverside 75080 Frank Sinatra Drive
Amici’s Italian Restaurant 71380 Highway 111
Bristol Farms 73101 Country Club Drive
Establishment A ddress
Clarks Dinah Shore
Contour Dermatology 42600 Mirage Road
CVA 70-000 Hwy 111
Desert land Rover 71-377 Hwy 111
Eisenhower Medical Center 39000 Bob Hope Drive
Elephant Car wash 71-400 Hwy 111
Kraft Nabisco Offices (@ Westin Mission Hills)
Rancho Mirage Chamber Bob Hope & hwy 111
Rancho Mirage Public Library 71100 Highway 111
RM Visitors Ctr
Shame on the Moon restaurant in RM 69950 Frank Sinatra Drive
The Palms Café 69-930 Hwy 111
The River @ Starbuck’s Coffee 71-800 Highway 111
Thai Smile 42-476 Bob Hope Drive
Auto Dealerships in CC? (Subaru) Perez Road and Highway 111
Studio 111 67555 E. Palm Canyon Drive
Cathedral City Boys Club 68-369 Sunair
Cathedral City Car wash 67-790 Hwy 111
Cathedral City Hall 68-700 Avenida Lalo Guerrero
Cathedral City Public Library 33520 Date Palm Drive
Cello’s Restaurant 35943 Date Palm Drive
Colin Fisher Studios 68-929 Perez Rd.
DiGS 36-737 Cathedral Canyon
Don & Sweet Sue’s 68955 Ramon Road
Leons Restaurant (Doral Resort) 28555 Landau Blvd.
Michael’s Café 35-955 Date palm
Palm Springs Fiat 36-400 Auto Park Drive
Palm Springs Lanes 68-051 Ramon Road
Revivals 68-401 E Highway 111
Subaru 67-925 E. Palm Canyon Drive
The Barracks 67-625 E. Palm Canyon
Trader Joe’s Cathedral City 67720 East Palm Canyon Drive
UPS Store In Target Area
Old Town Coffee Company 78-100 Main Street, Suite 102
Trader Joe’s La Quinta 46400 Washington Street
El Destino Night Club 83085 Indio Blvd.
Sun City Shadow Hills 81485 Camino Montevideo
Cabazon Outlets 49500 Seminole Drive, Cabazon